These have not been two optimal years for Jewish Americans. Hatred of Jews as people who stay separate dates back perhaps to Pharaoh, who addressed his perception of our communal power by implementing a slavery system, one created by our own successful immigrant ancestor Joseph. Most of our history has us as a successful subset within a larger dominant population. We created internal institutions in response to our circumstances. Places of worship, a religious court system for internal disputes, economic wealth, enduring literature, effective educational systems. Selected individuals or families would periodically gain prominence amid the majority culture. But we experienced expulsions and massacres when prevailing cultural values shifted.
Wednesday, February 11, 2026
Addressing our Anti-Semitic Reality
These have not been two optimal years for Jewish Americans. Hatred of Jews as people who stay separate dates back perhaps to Pharaoh, who addressed his perception of our communal power by implementing a slavery system, one created by our own successful immigrant ancestor Joseph. Most of our history has us as a successful subset within a larger dominant population. We created internal institutions in response to our circumstances. Places of worship, a religious court system for internal disputes, economic wealth, enduring literature, effective educational systems. Selected individuals or families would periodically gain prominence amid the majority culture. But we experienced expulsions and massacres when prevailing cultural values shifted.
Tuesday, September 30, 2025
Driving Through Neighborhoods
My town doesn't really have neighborhoods. There are areas with expensive homes, others with marginal housing and crime. We have a shell of a downtown. But homogeneity rules. At one time Jews lived in one place, Italians in another, African Americans of all incomes largely together. We have largely dispersed, with enclaves notable primarily for housing prices. Our major employers have succeeded in creating ethnically diverse payrolls. We do not even have a dominant university where young adults cluster.
Sunday, March 2, 2025
Pick One
The more preferable of two goods. In an electoral world of objectionable choices, this one seemed welcome. Two invitations arrived by email, one directly with ample notice, the other in a more backhanded way on much shorter notice. Neither anticipated.
Friday, August 12, 2022
Immersed with Others
My personal interactions have seriously atrophied, maybe even dangerously atrophied. Partly retirement which took me out of circulation, but not exclusively. Covid isolation made a significant contribution. While OLLI and much of the rest of the world compensated with Zoom offerings, introducing some outstanding exposure to people of professional prominence not previously available to me, they could not duplicate those personal interactions that occur in the lounge sipping coffee. As our masks got set aside, other people became better able to venture in public places, though not yet returning to baseline.
With this paucity of personal contacts, made worse by not only excessive screen time but by the moguls of cyberspace interactions and idea exchange who devalued our need to connect in a meaningful way to sell us things instead, I am very much among the many who recognize isolation, loneliness, and languishing. While FB brings me to Friends, some real, some an illusion, I signed myself off for the month of July to escape much of its toxicity. As I return in a more cautious way a month later, the distribution and frequency of who posts what, or at least what their algorithm approves for my passive feed, has not changed in a noticeable way. I had one real meeting with one real friend in NYC that month after paying long overdue respect for people to whom I was once close at a cemetery just outside the city. Visited my son and daughter-in-law. A few real chats competing with screens, along with a shabbos morning at Tree of Life Synagogue's current reality. Shared remembrance of one of the victims with the congregational president was my only meaningful personal interaction that morning. And my synagogue, which should be my principle weekly outlet of personal contact, has largely trivialized it with its perfunctory "good shabbos, nice tie" as the surrogate for floating ideas about Judaism or about events of the days that preceded shabbos.
This past week I selected my OLLI courses using their new flat fee, unlimited course registration format. I targeted only classes that meet in person without a Zoom alternative, making an exception for one half-term course given from downstate by an instructor who did an ace job last time. Talking heads gone. What has not returned post-pandemic, though, seems to be those small in-person discussion based sessions, limited to an enrollment of under twenty.
Could I even retain the skill now to immerse myself with others, particularly strangers? That got tested yesterday, demonstrating that not only I could but that it restored a personal feeling of having meaning. I volunteered to check people into on-site OLLI registration, even though I really didn't know how. This being the final day, nobody showed up, which left me with two other volunteers. We talked about OLLI, food, inflation, doctors. All the things that would have made chat in the OLLI lounge between classes, and hopefully still can as on-site enrollment ticks upwards.
Then I went to Sprouts, not my usual store but the best option for premium produce. For practical reasons I checked out in the line with a cashier. It had been my custom when shopping in large places to opt for self-checkout where there is usually no wait and I sense control that I don't have to defer to a cashier. But this time, having somebody else do this, even if the only interaction was to tell me the total, seemed preferable to being totally on my own.
After a couple of months away from the Blood Donor center due to a setback in eligibility, I self-treated the problem while I await formal medical care for it and wanted to see how successfully I did this. Over the years, few things have given me more satisfaction than my periodic platelet donations. In addition to benefiting somebody I will never meet, since retirement this has become among my most reliable social interactions, even if limited to 6-8 week intervals. Each time I am greeted, then interviewed, and if my Hb> 13g/dl I am taken to a reclining chair where ladies, or rarely a gentleman, insert two IVs, takes samples to assure safety and future eligibility, then leaves me alone to watch Netflix with occasional returns to check my progress or reset their collection device when an alert appears. I've done this frequently enough that some of the veteran RN's know me by name and face.
I passed screening this time. IV's inserted, Queer Eye video started, but afferent IV failed. Donation aborted, as they are only permitted to reposition an aberrant IV line, not repuncture the skin. Still I had a pleasant few minutes in the post-donation canteen with some diet Sierra Mist and two chocolate chip cookies served by that room's volunteer. I could have gone to Costco's or Cabela's instead but decided to just go home. Having left my cell phone in the car for the donation, which also serves me as an escape from being reached or being lured to cyberspace, I returned to my car to find a message from the last remaining first cousin with whom I maintain contact.
We mostly share my late father as our common bond. He lives in Florida now, not far from Dad's resting place which I'd like to visit not too many months in the future. Modern cars now allow me to talk safely with the cell phone via audio boost from the car, so once in the optimal lane on the highway, I returned his call, really needing only a finger or two to do this. We spoke about platelets, our doctors, his intraocular injections, retirement activities, general chat that too often eludes me. We agreed to do our best to get together when I travel there, which gives me a significant incentive to complete my airline and hotel reservations, starting with specific dates.
Our Torah text begins with a lot of It Was Goods. There aren't too many It Was Not Goods, being alone perhaps the most famous of the few. While I cannot realistically return myself to a daily pageant of circulating among throngs, I can reduce screen time, be more personally assertive when OLLI resumes next month, target a new place to be with people I've not met before each week, or make an effort to invite myself onto the blood donor schedule as my eligibility allows. As my home reaches its suitability to entertain guests, I can be more consistent with invitations. Being back in circulation in a serious way yesterday, after a substantial absence, reinforced the benefits of this, and its personal importance.
Tuesday, October 30, 2018
Massacred
An old friend from college, however, became the first for me, a victim of a mass shooting at Tree of Life Synagogue where he attened Dor Hadash, a Reconstructionist congregation that rented space in the building. I suspected it might be him as soon as the names with ages were released the day after the assault, confirmed within an hour or two. Jerry Rabinowitz, UPenn C'73/M'77 had been my friend in college for four years. We served together on the freshman rowing team, both as coxswains, he departing wisely at mid-year when the coach had a hissy-fit and made us all run beyond our reasonable capacity. Jerry went on to excel at his studies, gaining admission to UPenn medical school and then settling in Pittsburgh as a primary care physician. I would learn from the tributes and more formal obituaries that he got in on the ground floor of managing AIDS, being among the first to introduce anti-retroviral medicine as it became available to those with low CD4 counts. We lost contact, and when the photographs appeared in public media, I probably would not have recognized him in a social situation but the identity would click in a minute or two with name tags at a UPenn event. I remember Jerry as kindly and maybe somewhat direct in our conversations. I do not recall him going to shul or having a girlfriend. I cannot even remember for sure his major, though I think it was biochemistry as we shared classes into our junior or maybe even senior years.
Forty years of separation can be reconnected up to a point in an obituary. He had only been married 21 years, he served as a pillar of the Reconstructive synagogue that rented space where the massacre occurred during shabbat morning worship. In doctor fashion, his first inclination was to attend to the wounded in his presence. His mother and his in-laws survive, though he had no children. Some relatives, likely on his wife's side, had made Aliyah with many characteristic Israeli names among the survivors.
For a while, I considered driving to Pittsburgh for the funeral. That was not to be, as I had a deadline project that would delay travel and unknown to me, the funeral took place this morning, the first set of funerals for four of the eleven murdered. I just could not have gotten there.
Does knowing a victim change how a mass murder of this type registers? I do not know yet. There is the function brain part of me that is well aware of targeting of Jews through history, whether by spontaneous pogroms, pre-meditated Holocausts or inquisitions, assassinations targeting individuals, or terror attacks where randomness that creates a who's next is integral to the plan. The hatred that drives this is never rational, but there is usually an agenda from not allowing Jews who Islamists regard as dhimis from owning land to diffusing perceived economic power, to keeping the Church free of non-believers. While murder usually gets condemnation, at least in America, the underlying desire to identify an external target to avenge one's social travails, often does not. That's where we seem to be now. Prosecution of perpetrators does not stop this. Elections sometimes do. We have an opportunity for this in just a couple of weeks. My friend Jerry's shooting was random, but indirectly enabled. It has to be disabled and I am optimistic that enough people will have connected to this to make for a return to some of the decency that America's electoral leadership has not seen as important enough to protect.